Home Educating – How Did We Get Here?

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Washington Thurman

I started looking into home educating in 2017 after realising that my then 7-year-old son T wasn’t happy in school. He began refusing to go (but was still going), and on a few occasions, he came out of school upset and crying. Overall he was becoming less confident, and talking about himself negatively saying such things as ‘I’m rubbish at everything”, “My writing is so bad”, “No one likes me” etc He was also continuously questioning me asking WHY he had to go to school in the first place and what was the point of it…(a question that I couldn’t answer!) Like any parent I wanted to get to the bottom of the problem and to try and help him to have a good schooling experience. I spoke positively about his school, discussing ways in which he could feel better about it, and techniques that he could use to avoid isolation at playtime (this was a major problem for him), but none of this helped. I identified that his dislike wasn’t due to any bullying (him bullying or him being bullied) and spoke with his teacher who advised that she was shocked that he was so unhappy as she had no concerns about him and that he was getting on OK academically…

So Why Doesn’t He Like School?

Like the majority of children,  T is a very curious child that questions everything. This curiosity was completely nurtured in EYS, however, once he hit KS1, this curiosity was being rapidly dismissed, which was damaging his self-esteem. He was upset about no longer being able to play in the classroom, having to be silent and not feeling comfortable speaking up / asking questions. I believe that his only saving grace confidence wise has been taking part in out of school activities, such as swimming, music, art and cubs, enabling him to refill his cup after being completely emptied at school.

After a year of educating myself about home educating and a lot of deliberating (Can I do this? Is it the right thing for him? Will I damage him? Will I have time to work?) – I have decided that this is the best route for him. I can no longer sit back knowing that he is going to school every day having his curious young spirit chipped away bit by bit for the sake of reaching KS2 Maths and Literacy targets. I don’t want him to lose his love of learning (which is already waning) just because the traditional school learning environment is not right for him and for him to know and believe that he can do anything that he puts his mind to.

It’s a big change and is somewhat daunting but I’m confident that in the long run, it will be worth it. I’m sending a de-registration letter to the school this week and as I’m writing this the nerves are kicking in…

Let The Home Educating Adventure Begin!

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