First Official Week Home Educating

Its been our first week of no school runs. I actually used to enjoy the walk to school, what I didn’t enjoy was the alarm at 7.30am, and the mad rush out of the door!

This week has been focused on ‘deschooling‘ i.e. treating every day as if it were a Saturday. We didn’t really do much on Monday, he spent most of the day making a book case for the second hand Minecraft books that he bought using pocket money savings from Ebay, and googling for Duct tape (the best quality at the least cost!) and he later attended his drumming session when I went to work. On Tuesday, we decided to walk the dog to the meadows, 10 minutes from our house to do a little exploring. We would usually take her to the dog friendly field, but as this was an exploring / non rushed day, we went to a different part of the meadows. While there T decided he wanted to explore the wooded area, somewhere that we’d never visited before. Once we got there he quickly decided that we build a Den, so we got to work collecting logs and large fallen branches, and soon his den was forming nicely!

Wednesday morning he accompanied me on a couple of errands, and in the afternoon we drove over to see my Sister who lives about 30 minutes away by car. It was great to hear him talking to her about home educating and discussing the things that he’s interested in and wants to learn about. At the moment he is purely focused on making things!

Thursday he spent the morning playing with his cars. I was completely shocked at this…I hadn’t seen those cars for around a year! It was lovely to hear him engaged in imaginative play, something that I’d not witnessed in a long time. I worked that afternoon / evening and he went to cubs with friends so he had lots of fun!

Friday we revisited the den, once there he decided that he wanted to go further in to the woods, so we did. After about 15 minutes of exploring, the dog had found something. T quickly ran after her, and as I approached he was shouting “Wooah, look at this, treasure!” We soon realised that he had found a jewellery box, with lots of costume jewellery (in his mind it was pure gold!) After his initial excitement had calmed he decided that he would bring it home, clean it up and take it to the Police station as it was obviously stolen. It was a joy to see him explore and find something special, and do something good about it. As he said, “I would never have been able to find this treasure if I was in school!” – I very much agree!

Saturday (today) he wanted to revisit the den, this time armed with gardening gloves, tape, a pen and glue (?!) he was amazed that everything was still in its place, and wanted to explore to find some metal objects to add to his den. Oh and also revisit the jewellery box scene. We did and he found more jewellery! On returning home he spent over an hour on the kitchen floor cleaning / sorting the items and talking about the ‘crime scene’ and declared that he is going to write a story about his & our dogs discoveries. We later played scrabble for the first time and T WON (the adults were actually trying too…!) and now he’s looking up the ‘fastest dog breeds’ on Youtube. So all in all its been a great week!

Home Educating – How Did We Get Here?

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive


“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Washington Thurman

I started looking into home educating in 2017 after realising that my then 7-year-old son T wasn’t happy in school. He began refusing to go (but was still going), and on a few occasions, he came out of school upset and crying. Overall he was becoming less confident, and talking about himself negatively saying such things as ‘I’m rubbish at everything”, “My writing is so bad”, “No one likes me” etc He was also continuously questioning me asking WHY he had to go to school in the first place and what was the point of it…(a question that I couldn’t answer!) Like any parent I wanted to get to the bottom of the problem and to try and help him to have a good schooling experience. I spoke positively about his school, discussing ways in which he could feel better about it, and techniques that he could use to avoid isolation at playtime (this was a major problem for him), but none of this helped. I identified that his dislike wasn’t due to any bullying (him bullying or him being bullied) and spoke with his teacher who advised that she was shocked that he was so unhappy as she had no concerns about him and that he was getting on OK academically…

So Why Doesn’t He Like School?

Like the majority of children,  T is a very curious child that questions everything. This curiosity was completely nurtured in EYS, however, once he hit KS1, this curiosity was being rapidly dismissed, which was damaging his self-esteem. He was upset about no longer being able to play in the classroom, having to be silent and not feeling comfortable speaking up / asking questions. I believe that his only saving grace confidence wise has been taking part in out of school activities, such as swimming, music, art and cubs, enabling him to refill his cup after being completely emptied at school.

After a year of educating myself about home educating and a lot of deliberating (Can I do this? Is it the right thing for him? Will I damage him? Will I have time to work?) – I have decided that this is the best route for him. I can no longer sit back knowing that he is going to school every day having his curious young spirit chipped away bit by bit for the sake of reaching KS2 Maths and Literacy targets. I don’t want him to lose his love of learning (which is already waning) just because the traditional school learning environment is not right for him and for him to know and believe that he can do anything that he puts his mind to.

It’s a big change and is somewhat daunting but I’m confident that in the long run, it will be worth it. I’m sending a de-registration letter to the school this week and as I’m writing this the nerves are kicking in…

Let The Home Educating Adventure Begin!